It is not unusual for an employee to quit a job in frustration and the perceived reasons behind the frustration may be many – a difficult manager, lack of growth, no appreciation, insufficient pay, and so on. However quitting a job in a state of frustration while grappling with these issues is the wrong move. Here’s why.
- One – it is usually very difficult for us to see our role in creating the situation we are faced with. We attribute all of the problems we face to external factors outside of our control, and believe that a new environment will give us a fresh start bereft of these issues. The easiest way to get away from the problems is to get away. Think again. Recently I was coaching an HR manager with low morale, and a sub-par job performance. She was on the verge of quitting her job. Her view of the problem was that she was doing everything she could, and all the problems were outside of her control. I worked with her, her manager, and some peers to help her understand her role in the problem. Some minor adjustments to get her better organized, and implementation of a communication protocol with her manager eased the problem and she was able to continue and thrive in her job. Had she quit, she would have carried her problems with her, and would have faced the same problems in a few years in a different work place.
- Two – frustrating situations test us. We have to find innovative ways to deal with them, and it often means that we have to get out of our comfort zone. Didn’t someone say that you can never learn swimming by sitting on a couch and watching a video? Getting out of our comfort zone leads to new learning, and growth. So think harder as to what you must do to make things better. Get help from someone more experienced. Talk. Try something different. You will be surprised at how often things will get better when you try different.
- Three – quitting in frustration leads you to make decisions that are sub optimal. When you are running away from something, anything different seems OK. Therefore you will not make the best choices. Move to something new and exciting because that is what you aspire to do, rather than running away from what you don’t want to do. Until then, learn new skills to deal with the challenges you face.
Next time you are frustrated and want to leave your job, remind yourself of these three things. It will help you start building a career rather than hop jobs in the hope that the next one will be better.